Is being married to the same person year after year unfulfilling and boring? Sure, getting married is the easy part! Staying married, and doing it with a happy heart is another story.
Studies show that many factors can determine whether a marriage will last or not.
Everything from the age we are when we get married to, whether we still thank each other – but there are proven behaviors and thought patterns that go hand in hand with staying happily married.
Couples that stay married consistently choose to see their partners through the eyes of love. They look for the good in their partners, and they are also interested in them; they support them through challenging times, and make their happy moments even happier.
Talking to each other also makes for a happy marriage. Nobody wants to be that couple sitting across from each other at a restaurant with nothing to say and just staring at their phones. Sharing our dreams, asking questions, and talking about things other than the kids, the weather, and whose mom is sick certainly matters. I have been working on my listening skills. I will pause the TV or put my phone down when Brian speaks. I want him to know that what he is saying is important to me, because it’s important to him. Successful couples talk – a lot.
Learning to resolve conflicts is a crucial skill in any successful marriage. The frequency of disagreements is not really the issue; it’s how we handle them that truly matters. Remember, once we know better, we can do better, and our marriage is worth it! Effective conflict resolution promotes understanding and strengthens the bond between partners.
Appreciation and gratitude in a marriage is another must. If we want to elevate our marriages almost immediately, let’s consider making more of an effort to express appreciation and gratitude to our spouses. Our spouses do more for us than we give them credit for. Keep an eye out for opportunities to express your gratitude. Say, thank you. Often.
It’s no surprise that making quality time for each other is important, and certainly increases our chances of creating a fulfilling marriage.
We get married to share life with our spouses and increase our joy. Regularly making time to do something fun together keeps things exciting, and is the key to connection!
We stay married by fully committing to each other no matter what life throws at us – always knowing that together, we got this! Imagine creating a deeper connection, a sense of security, unwavering trust, and true love. All things are possible if we believe in our love for each other.