All four of you are in the midst of major life transitions. Your son and new daughter-in-law are not only entering adulthood but also learning to be marital partners. You and your husband are transitioning from being in-charge parents to supportstaff for your newly married son and his young wife. While this can be a daunting challenge for everyone involved, you can help make the transition much smoother.

John and I have been happily married for six years. We have two great kids, four year-old Sam and Katie who just turned three. My problem is that John has a lady friend he’s known since high school. They work near each other and have lunch together about twice a week. He says they are just friends. I trust John. I don’t feel right asking him not to see her but I am beginning to feel jealous even though I know of nothing wrong that they’ve done.